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bethje and I went to the wedding of Dorothea's best friend Eileen. The actual wedding was at a church, and I can really only think of two things particularly worth mentioning about it. One is that there was some kind of candle-lighting ceremony and separate ring presentation for the groom's daughter (from his first marriage). The other is that they said the Lord's Prayer with the words "forgive us our trespasses," rather than "debtors," which is how I'd learned it growing up. The reception was at a catering hall really close by, and started out with an hors d'oeuvre session where we weren't allowed to sit down. I can't say I particularly enjoyed that, although it was cool to try some different kinds of cheese. Beth tried some caviar, but I wasn't brave enough to do so. Her assessment was that it was salty, which I'm sure is true. Actually, I'd give the food a thumbs up in general, aside from the butternut squash soup. We had a choice between pork tenderloin, duck with Grand Mariner sauce, and salmon. (I had heard that there was also a vegetarian option, but since no one at our table was a vegetarian, this was never officially confirmed.) I had the pork, which was in an apricot sauce that I actually quite liked. I tend to be quite picky about sauces (usually preferring not to have them at all), so that's saying something. I also tried a bite of Beth's duck, which was good as well. I do wish they'd had some non-alcoholic beverages other than water and coffee, but I'm sure not everyone is as into fruit juice as I am. {g} Actually, since they were serving mixed drinks at the bar, I'm sure I could have gotten some orange juice or a soda, but I didn't think of it at the time. I did have a Fuzzy Navel, which I liked, but I really nursed due to my ridiculous paranoia when it comes to alcohol. I also tried a few sips of wine, but even the sweet wines tend to have a funky taste to them. I guess that's the kind of thing you have to develop a taste for.
We were thinking of putting what we'd learned in our ballroom dancing class to use, but aside from a few Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra songs before the dance floor had really been opened, there wasn't anything you could do that kind of dance to. The DJ mostly played the tacky party songs that old people can dance to, like the Electric Slide and the Chicken Dance. The official wedding song was Josh Groban's "You Raise Me Up," and can I just say that I'm not a fan of Mr. Groban's? The weirdest choice on the playlist, however, was "Fire And Rain." I mean, I'm not someone who thinks that every song played at a wedding has to be directly related to the ceremony or the couple, but isn't a song about someone dying kind of a messed-up choice for the occasion?
I was pretty tired after the wedding, so I went to sleep pretty early, and eventually had a dream where I was at Friendly's with someone (my companion changed from Beth to my dad to my grandfather to my mom), and I ordered a banana split at the counter. The guy working there took my order, and then he left and gave it to a different guy, who ended up giving me spaghetti with ice cream on top instead of a banana split. I asked the first guy, who had returned by this point, for a comment card, but he kept doing other things instead of getting me one. There was a stack of forms at the counter, but none of them were the right one.
Under the cut is another survey that I got fromtravspence:
MOUTHOLOGY
Q. What is your salad dressing of choice?
A. Honey mustard, although I'll often just not get dressing at all. People have told me that my distaste for dressing is probably why I don't like salads in general.
Q. What is your favorite fast food restaurant?
A. Chick-fil-A
Q. What is your favorite sit-down restaurant?
A. My stock answer to this is the Olive Garden.
Q. On average, what size tip do you leave at a restaurant?
A. I try to leave around 20%, unless the service was particularly good or bad.
Q. What food could you eat every day for two weeks and not get sick of?
A: It probably makes me sound like I'm eight years old or something, but definitely pizza.
Q. What are your pizza toppings of choice?
A. I'll often just get extra cheese, but I also quite like pepperoni and mushrooms. Sausage varies from place to place.
Q. What do you like to put on your toast?
A: Butter and jelly
TECHNOLOGY
Q. What is your wallpaper on your computer?
A: Bowser's Keep from Super Mario RPG
Q. How many televisions are in your house?
A: Six, I think
BIOLOGY
Q. Are you right-handed or left-handed?
A. Right
Q. Have you ever had anything removed from your body?
A. Not that I can recall, unless you count having blood drawn.
Q. When was the last time you had a cavity?
A. It's been so long since I've been to the dentist that it's possible I have one now. When I went a few years ago, I didn't have any new cavities, but I had to get my fillings touched up.
Q. What is the last heavy item you lifted?
A. I don't know, which should tell you how often I lift heavy items.
Q. Have you ever been knocked unconscious?
A. No, I don't think so.
BULLSHITTOLOGY
Q. If it were possible, would you want to know the day you were going to die?
A. Honestly, knowing how I am, no. There would be advantages, but I have a bad habit of not being able to enjoy myself when I have something I'm dreading coming up in the future.
Q. If you could change your name, what would you change it to?
A. I'm not sure. I sort of like Damon, which is what my mom said she was considering naming me, but I don't know.
Q. What color do you think looks best on you?
A. I actually think pastels suit me pretty well, but I wouldn't want to wear them at the time.
Q. Have you ever swallowed a non-food item by mistake?
A. I'm sure I have.
Q. Have you ever saved someone's life?
A. No.
Q. Has someone ever saved yours?
A. Not really.
DAREOLOGY
Q. Would you kiss a member of the same sex for $100?
A. Depends on who it is, and whether Beth would be okay with it.
Q. Would you allow one of your little fingers to be cut off for $200,000?
A. No.
Q. Would you never blog again for $50,000?
A. It's tempting, but I'm not sure I just quit cold turkey. I'm too obsessed with telling people things that I'm sure they don't care about.
Q. Would you pose naked in a magazine for $250,000?
A. I'd have to think about that one. Maybe if it were classy enough.
Q. Would you drink an entire bottle of hot sauce for $1000?
A. No, I don't think so.
Q. Would you, without fear of punishment, take a human life for $1,000,000?
A. No way.
DUMBOLOGY
Q: What is in your left pocket?
A: In the pants I'm currently wearing, nothing. I usually keep change and chapstick in my left pocket, though.
Q: Is Napoleon Dynamite actually a good movie?
A. Well, I first watched it with my mom, who didn't really like it, and I didn't think that much of it either. Then I saw it with Beth, who liked it a lot, and I saw more of its merits that time. So I guess it's actually a movie where I absorb the opinions of people around me while watching it. Maybe I should try watching it alone at some point.
Q: Do you have hardwood or carpet in your house?
A: Carpet in some rooms, and fake wood in others
Q: Do you sit or stand in the shower?
A: Stand. I don't think too many people sit, unless they have those special shower seats. There was a time in my life when I'd only take baths, though.
Q: Could you live with roommates?
A: I do now, so I guess the answer is yes. I don't think I could ever just room with total strangers, though.
Q: How many pairs of flip flops do you own?
A: I don't think I have any.
Q: Last time you had a run-in with the cops?
A: When I got my ticket for illegal passing
Q: What do you want to be when you grow up?
A: A junkie
Q: Who is number 1 on your top 8?
A: Beth
LASTOLOGY
Q: Friend you talked to?
A: Beth
Q: Last person who called you?
A: Beth
Q: Person you hugged?
A: Hey, I have the same answer to all three questions in this section!
FAVORITOLOGY
Q: Number?
A: I tend to prefer round numbers. I also like 27, thanks to Weird Al.
Q: Season?
A: I usually say summer, mostly because it's the farthest from winter.
CURRENTOLOGY
Q: Missing someone?
A: Not so much at the moment. I'm sure I'll see Beth later today, after all.
Q: Mood?
A: I feel that I shouldn't be up so early, but I WAS in bed for almost eleven hours, so I guess it makes sense. Besides, I'm sure the fact that I only recently quit my graveyard shift job has my internal clock all screwed up.
Q: Listening to?
A: "Kings Of The Cave," by They Might Be Giants
Q: Watching?
A: My computer screen
Q: Worrying about?
A: Work-related stuff
RANDOMOLOGY
Q: First place you went this morning?
A: The bathroom
Q: What can you not wait to do?
A: Be seated
Q: What's the last movie you saw?
A: The Last Broadcast, a low-budget fake documentary about a search for the Jersey Devil, which I actually kind of liked. The ending was stupid, though.
Q: Do you smile often?
A: You know, I really couldn't tell you.
Q: Are you a friendly person?
A: Sometimes
By the way, I've started signing on to AIM a little more nowadays, but I noticed that my friends list is mostly made up of people I haven't talked to in years, and who might not even have the same screen names now anyway. If anyone wants to tell me their screen names, I'd be much obliged. I'm generally too shy to contact anyone first, but you can IM me if you'd like. My name on there is "Fablesto."
bethje and I went to the wedding of Dorothea's best friend Eileen. The actual wedding was at a church, and I can really only think of two things particularly worth mentioning about it. One is that there was some kind of candle-lighting ceremony and separate ring presentation for the groom's daughter (from his first marriage). The other is that they said the Lord's Prayer with the words "forgive us our trespasses," rather than "debtors," which is how I'd learned it growing up. The reception was at a catering hall really close by, and started out with an hors d'oeuvre session where we weren't allowed to sit down. I can't say I particularly enjoyed that, although it was cool to try some different kinds of cheese. Beth tried some caviar, but I wasn't brave enough to do so. Her assessment was that it was salty, which I'm sure is true. Actually, I'd give the food a thumbs up in general, aside from the butternut squash soup. We had a choice between pork tenderloin, duck with Grand Mariner sauce, and salmon. (I had heard that there was also a vegetarian option, but since no one at our table was a vegetarian, this was never officially confirmed.) I had the pork, which was in an apricot sauce that I actually quite liked. I tend to be quite picky about sauces (usually preferring not to have them at all), so that's saying something. I also tried a bite of Beth's duck, which was good as well. I do wish they'd had some non-alcoholic beverages other than water and coffee, but I'm sure not everyone is as into fruit juice as I am. {g} Actually, since they were serving mixed drinks at the bar, I'm sure I could have gotten some orange juice or a soda, but I didn't think of it at the time. I did have a Fuzzy Navel, which I liked, but I really nursed due to my ridiculous paranoia when it comes to alcohol. I also tried a few sips of wine, but even the sweet wines tend to have a funky taste to them. I guess that's the kind of thing you have to develop a taste for.We were thinking of putting what we'd learned in our ballroom dancing class to use, but aside from a few Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra songs before the dance floor had really been opened, there wasn't anything you could do that kind of dance to. The DJ mostly played the tacky party songs that old people can dance to, like the Electric Slide and the Chicken Dance. The official wedding song was Josh Groban's "You Raise Me Up," and can I just say that I'm not a fan of Mr. Groban's? The weirdest choice on the playlist, however, was "Fire And Rain." I mean, I'm not someone who thinks that every song played at a wedding has to be directly related to the ceremony or the couple, but isn't a song about someone dying kind of a messed-up choice for the occasion?
I was pretty tired after the wedding, so I went to sleep pretty early, and eventually had a dream where I was at Friendly's with someone (my companion changed from Beth to my dad to my grandfather to my mom), and I ordered a banana split at the counter. The guy working there took my order, and then he left and gave it to a different guy, who ended up giving me spaghetti with ice cream on top instead of a banana split. I asked the first guy, who had returned by this point, for a comment card, but he kept doing other things instead of getting me one. There was a stack of forms at the counter, but none of them were the right one.
Under the cut is another survey that I got from
travspence:MOUTHOLOGY
Q. What is your salad dressing of choice?
A. Honey mustard, although I'll often just not get dressing at all. People have told me that my distaste for dressing is probably why I don't like salads in general.
Q. What is your favorite fast food restaurant?
A. Chick-fil-A
Q. What is your favorite sit-down restaurant?
A. My stock answer to this is the Olive Garden.
Q. On average, what size tip do you leave at a restaurant?
A. I try to leave around 20%, unless the service was particularly good or bad.
Q. What food could you eat every day for two weeks and not get sick of?
A: It probably makes me sound like I'm eight years old or something, but definitely pizza.
Q. What are your pizza toppings of choice?
A. I'll often just get extra cheese, but I also quite like pepperoni and mushrooms. Sausage varies from place to place.
Q. What do you like to put on your toast?
A: Butter and jelly
TECHNOLOGY
Q. What is your wallpaper on your computer?
A: Bowser's Keep from Super Mario RPG
Q. How many televisions are in your house?
A: Six, I think
BIOLOGY
Q. Are you right-handed or left-handed?
A. Right
Q. Have you ever had anything removed from your body?
A. Not that I can recall, unless you count having blood drawn.
Q. When was the last time you had a cavity?
A. It's been so long since I've been to the dentist that it's possible I have one now. When I went a few years ago, I didn't have any new cavities, but I had to get my fillings touched up.
Q. What is the last heavy item you lifted?
A. I don't know, which should tell you how often I lift heavy items.
Q. Have you ever been knocked unconscious?
A. No, I don't think so.
BULLSHITTOLOGY
Q. If it were possible, would you want to know the day you were going to die?
A. Honestly, knowing how I am, no. There would be advantages, but I have a bad habit of not being able to enjoy myself when I have something I'm dreading coming up in the future.
Q. If you could change your name, what would you change it to?
A. I'm not sure. I sort of like Damon, which is what my mom said she was considering naming me, but I don't know.
Q. What color do you think looks best on you?
A. I actually think pastels suit me pretty well, but I wouldn't want to wear them at the time.
Q. Have you ever swallowed a non-food item by mistake?
A. I'm sure I have.
Q. Have you ever saved someone's life?
A. No.
Q. Has someone ever saved yours?
A. Not really.
DAREOLOGY
Q. Would you kiss a member of the same sex for $100?
A. Depends on who it is, and whether Beth would be okay with it.
Q. Would you allow one of your little fingers to be cut off for $200,000?
A. No.
Q. Would you never blog again for $50,000?
A. It's tempting, but I'm not sure I just quit cold turkey. I'm too obsessed with telling people things that I'm sure they don't care about.
Q. Would you pose naked in a magazine for $250,000?
A. I'd have to think about that one. Maybe if it were classy enough.
Q. Would you drink an entire bottle of hot sauce for $1000?
A. No, I don't think so.
Q. Would you, without fear of punishment, take a human life for $1,000,000?
A. No way.
DUMBOLOGY
Q: What is in your left pocket?
A: In the pants I'm currently wearing, nothing. I usually keep change and chapstick in my left pocket, though.
Q: Is Napoleon Dynamite actually a good movie?
A. Well, I first watched it with my mom, who didn't really like it, and I didn't think that much of it either. Then I saw it with Beth, who liked it a lot, and I saw more of its merits that time. So I guess it's actually a movie where I absorb the opinions of people around me while watching it. Maybe I should try watching it alone at some point.
Q: Do you have hardwood or carpet in your house?
A: Carpet in some rooms, and fake wood in others
Q: Do you sit or stand in the shower?
A: Stand. I don't think too many people sit, unless they have those special shower seats. There was a time in my life when I'd only take baths, though.
Q: Could you live with roommates?
A: I do now, so I guess the answer is yes. I don't think I could ever just room with total strangers, though.
Q: How many pairs of flip flops do you own?
A: I don't think I have any.
Q: Last time you had a run-in with the cops?
A: When I got my ticket for illegal passing
Q: What do you want to be when you grow up?
A: A junkie
Q: Who is number 1 on your top 8?
A: Beth
LASTOLOGY
Q: Friend you talked to?
A: Beth
Q: Last person who called you?
A: Beth
Q: Person you hugged?
A: Hey, I have the same answer to all three questions in this section!
FAVORITOLOGY
Q: Number?
A: I tend to prefer round numbers. I also like 27, thanks to Weird Al.
Q: Season?
A: I usually say summer, mostly because it's the farthest from winter.
CURRENTOLOGY
Q: Missing someone?
A: Not so much at the moment. I'm sure I'll see Beth later today, after all.
Q: Mood?
A: I feel that I shouldn't be up so early, but I WAS in bed for almost eleven hours, so I guess it makes sense. Besides, I'm sure the fact that I only recently quit my graveyard shift job has my internal clock all screwed up.
Q: Listening to?
A: "Kings Of The Cave," by They Might Be Giants
Q: Watching?
A: My computer screen
Q: Worrying about?
A: Work-related stuff
RANDOMOLOGY
Q: First place you went this morning?
A: The bathroom
Q: What can you not wait to do?
A: Be seated
Q: What's the last movie you saw?
A: The Last Broadcast, a low-budget fake documentary about a search for the Jersey Devil, which I actually kind of liked. The ending was stupid, though.
Q: Do you smile often?
A: You know, I really couldn't tell you.
Q: Are you a friendly person?
A: Sometimes
By the way, I've started signing on to AIM a little more nowadays, but I noticed that my friends list is mostly made up of people I haven't talked to in years, and who might not even have the same screen names now anyway. If anyone wants to tell me their screen names, I'd be much obliged. I'm generally too shy to contact anyone first, but you can IM me if you'd like. My name on there is "Fablesto."
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Date: 2007-10-14 01:26 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-14 03:42 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-14 02:50 pm (UTC)As for odd wedding reception music. I admit to asking the DJ at my wedding to play "Love will tear us apart" by Joy Division, which is a song about divorce. But, I looked at the DJ as being there to play awesome music rather than make some sort of statement about our marriage. Oh -- and he most definitely did NOT play crappy party songs. *GAG* I've been told that people "expect" them at weddings, but I don't think I could have handled people thinking we approved of the Macarena. >_>
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Date: 2007-10-14 03:44 pm (UTC)I'm not really sure, but I can tell you the church we went to was Presbyterian. Maybe they just wanted to shorten it. I don't know.
But, I looked at the DJ as being there to play awesome music rather than make some sort of statement about our marriage.
Yeah, I think that's a good attitude to take. I have no idea how much input the bride and groom had over what this DJ played. I know I'd want to approve what would be played, but it's not like it really matters, since I don't plan to have a wedding.
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Date: 2007-10-14 06:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-14 06:20 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-14 06:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-15 12:21 am (UTC)in theory it sounds great but in practice-- I've seen it done-- it really sucks. Automatic playlists can't read a crowd. Granted, there are a lot of sucky Deejays who can't read a crowd, either (it's different than deejaying for radio or background music-- I'm great at that sort of deejaying, but I don't think I could do it for dancing), but if you go on recommendations--or better yet, someone you've seen in action somewhere else-- you're more likely to find a Deejay that knows how to play songs in response to reactions from the dance floor, and if you're really lucky they'll also be great at encouraging people to join in. Of course that's if you WANT people to dance. If you just EXPECT people NOT to dance-- and if you happen to know your guests are not the dancing types-- then you're probably better off with just an automatic playlist doing background music. But not dance music. What'll happen is a small group of your very close friends who have the exact same taste in music as you will gather together and dance for a little while, while everyone else wanders off to see what's happening in the next room. Seen it.
People always forget the option of getting a live band, too! That way you don't have to worry about them doing the same stuff everyone else does, but they can still read a crowd, and the two weddings I've been to that have had live bands have ROCKED. But perhaps that was just luck.
I hear a lot of people who go into it all "I'll never have that crappy party music played at MY wedding!" and the crowd revolts and the deejay gives in. Seriously they do. 'Cause fact is, the reception isn't about YOU (the hypothetical YOU in the white dress or tux), it's about the GUESTS and what THEY want. If it was about YOU you'd just skip it all and go elope to some fancy resort and go immediately into the honeymoon. Or at least you should. It's cheaper.
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Date: 2007-10-15 01:01 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-15 02:08 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-15 06:29 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-15 06:26 pm (UTC)'Cause fact is, the reception isn't about YOU (the hypothetical YOU in the white dress or tux), it's about the GUESTS and what THEY want.
Beth asked me why I wouldn't want a wedding, considering that I like being the center of attention, and I said that the bride and groom really AREN'T the center of attention during most of the reception. And I think that's pretty much true. On the other hand, I think some people have weddings primarily to show off, and "hey, we chose all this music ourselves" is certainly another way to show off (well, unless people hate it, in which case you probably wouldn't want to brag).
But yeah, while I doubt Beth and I will have a wedding, I really can't see too many people in either of our families wanting to do the Electric Slide, so we might be safer with the automatic playlist.
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Date: 2007-10-15 12:25 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-14 09:58 pm (UTC)But seriously, if I were hiring a DJ for my own wedding, I would say, "Listen, if you play anything stupid or embarrassing, I will not pay you."
Maybe that's why, at the last three weddings I remember attending, I sat at my table the whole time, goofing on other people. Maybe I'm a jerk, though?
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Date: 2007-10-14 06:12 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-14 06:49 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-14 10:54 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-15 12:29 am (UTC)Seriously, though, it is. Most people have got smart and realized they don't want to wear tuxes in the middle of summer, so fall weddings have gotten much bigger. I would have been at a wedding today if it wasn't in Minnesota. And I have another wedding at the beginning of December!