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Relationships
Aug. 2nd, 2004 01:44 pmIsn't it annoying when music books tell you to play songs in different ways from how they sound on the actual recordings?
Not being able to think of a good title is pretty annoying, too.
On a totally unrelated note, I'll admit I don't know much about relationships, but I will say that I'm all for certainty in dating. I mean, I can see how there can be some confusion before a couple starts officially and exclusively dating, but it seems like too many people have confusion AFTERWARDS as well. You know, "I'm kind of going out with this person, but I'm sort of going out with this other person too." My thought on the matter is that, if you're officially "partners" (I hate that term, but I don't know a better one), and not simply casually dating, there shouldn't be any confusion.![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
bethje has said she sees a relationship as an oral contract, and I can definitely see that. If you've agreed to be in a relationship with someone, you're obligated to stick with it until what time, if any, you break up. Cheating is never okay. Granted, different couples can define cheating differently; it's a relative thing. I suppose a couple can even agree to have an "open" relationship. I'm not necessarily morally opposed to that idea, but I do think it's impractical, for many reasons, jealousy and confusion being two major ones. Still, if that's what you want to do, I'd advise against it, but I don't think it's immoral per se. Open relationships are very rare, though, while cheating and "I don't know if I'm this person's boyfriend/girlfriend" confusion seem to be unpleasantly common.
Not being able to think of a good title is pretty annoying, too.
On a totally unrelated note, I'll admit I don't know much about relationships, but I will say that I'm all for certainty in dating. I mean, I can see how there can be some confusion before a couple starts officially and exclusively dating, but it seems like too many people have confusion AFTERWARDS as well. You know, "I'm kind of going out with this person, but I'm sort of going out with this other person too." My thought on the matter is that, if you're officially "partners" (I hate that term, but I don't know a better one), and not simply casually dating, there shouldn't be any confusion.
bethje has said she sees a relationship as an oral contract, and I can definitely see that. If you've agreed to be in a relationship with someone, you're obligated to stick with it until what time, if any, you break up. Cheating is never okay. Granted, different couples can define cheating differently; it's a relative thing. I suppose a couple can even agree to have an "open" relationship. I'm not necessarily morally opposed to that idea, but I do think it's impractical, for many reasons, jealousy and confusion being two major ones. Still, if that's what you want to do, I'd advise against it, but I don't think it's immoral per se. Open relationships are very rare, though, while cheating and "I don't know if I'm this person's boyfriend/girlfriend" confusion seem to be unpleasantly common.
